Melissa Ambrosini seemed to have it all, a stellar career as a dancer, then in the media.
But everything wasn’t as it seemed and after crashing and burning Melissa set out on a journey to find more in life. Now having reinvented herself as an author, motivational speaker and mentor she is healthy and happier than ever. I’ve been following her progress for the past few years and am impressed with her commitment to her health and wellbeing and her message. Her mission to help other people master their ‘Mean Girl’ is so powerful because it really strikes at the core of why we don’t feel good enough in our lives and effects our happiness.
I caught up with Melissa to find out more.
Can you tell me a bit about how you started on this journey to build your coaching business?
Back in 2009 I hit rock bottom, and ended up in hospital with a whole host of health issues. On top of that, I was seriously depressed and very unhappy. I realised I was looking for happiness is all the wrong areas and although I was in the darkest place of my life, there was a little voice inside me that said ‘You can turn your life around, you know’. And I did. It wasn’t a piece of cake that’s for sure, and it took years, but getting healthy and finding happiness from deep within has been one of the most rewarding things I’ve ever done because it led me to my true path and to where I am today. From rock bottom in hospital I knew I needed to change my lifestyle so I began studying holistic nutrition, meditation and Acuenergetics. I started a blog to share what I was learning and the rest is history.
I love your use of the term ‘Mean Girl’. It is so true it’s our Mean Girl that tells us we’re not good/pretty/thin enough. How did you get over your mean girl?
Let me be clear, I haven’t gotten over her — she’s a part of me, just like everyone else’s Mean Girl or Boy is a part of them. However I have learned how to master her, which makes all the difference. How did I do it? You’ll have to read my book Mastering Your Mean Girl to find out 😉 But let’s just say that choosing love over fear has been one of the most powerful decisions in my life, and committing to make that choice in every moment is absolutely key to mastering your Mean Girl.
You used to dance for the Moulin Rouge (an amazing achievement by the way!). What sort of pressure did you feel to keep up a certain fitness level and look?
Thank you, it was very fun! I moved to Paris at age 20 and that was when all my disordered eating habits began and the voice of my Mean Girl turned vicious. I felt a lot of pressure, but to be honest, it was mainly pressure from within myself — if I’d been confident and comfortable inside my own skin, I wouldn’t have felt it. I think it was sparked by the fact that I kept witnessing all these amazingly beautiful women calling themselves fat and ugly, and just being generally awful to themselves. My Mean Girl started comparing and measuring me against them, and I always came up short: ‘If that gorgeous girl over there thinks she’s fat, ugly and worthless, what hope is there for you?’ I started to truly believe what my Mean Girl was saying about me. It was a vicious cycle that went on for years and resulted in a full-blown eating disorder and depression. It wasn’t until I learned how to master my Mean Girl, dial up my self-worth, and fall in love with myself that my life really changed.
Did you have a grueling training schedule and how did that affect your self-image?
The first four weeks are intense, with rehearsals from Monday to Saturday, 9 a.m. till 6 p.m. But then once you’re actually in the show, there are a lot less rehearsals. When you are in a job that is very focused on what you look like, it’s very hard not to get caught up in it. It takes a strong person to maintain their sense of self-love and self-worth when they are in that type of environment — if only I knew how to master my Mean Girl back then 😉
What do your daily health rituals look like these days?
Each day is different, but I have a few non negotiables that light me up…
Yoga or barre. Every morning I start my day with either some yoga in my lounge room or a barre class. I love it! It opens my body up, and for me is one of the most loving thing I can do for my temple.
Meditation. I meditate twice a day, every day — it’s one of my absolute non-negotiables, no matter how busy I am. Again, this is one of the most loving things I do for myself.
Nature time. Mother Nature is such a powerful healer and spending time with her is a great way to connect with myself.
If there was just one piece of advice you could give to help girls get over their Mean Girl what would it be?
You don’t have to live a life that is run by fear and you don’t have to listen to your Mean Girl. You CAN live a life beyond your wildest dreams and yes — you are worthy of it. All you have to do is believe it and you’re halfway there 😉
Can you tell us a bit about your beauty routine?
In all my books, programs and live events, I teach that real beauty comes from within. Nothing is sexier than someone who is confident in her own skin. I also believe less is more. I used to lather my body in toxic products and makeup, but now I opt for the more natural approach. I hardly wear makeup and choose to wear a smile instead. Sounds cheesy, but I believe there’s nothing sexier.
In saying that, there are a few things I do for the ‘outside’ that help support my insides…
Tongue scraping — an ayurvedic detoxification technique.
Dry body brushing — another amazing detoxification technique that exfoliates your skin at the same time.
Coconut oil and epsom salt baths — not only are these a sacred self-care ritual, they also detoxify and deeply nourish your skin.
Infrared sauna once a week — it’s incredibly soothing and invigorating, and another amazing detoxification technique.
Do you have a favourite product you can share with us?
Coconut oil is my number one. I use it as my body moisturizer, to take off my eye makeup, in the bath, as a shaving cream and as a hair mask. It’s so versatile, smells divine, and makes my skin so silky and smooth.
When I do choose to wear makeup, I love Ere Perez.
I love this 100% Pure Black Tea Mascara.
And I love the Vanessa Megan organic shampoo and conditioner.
Finally I hear you have a book coming out, congratulations. What can we expect to read about?
Thank you, I am SO excited to get this book out into the world!. Mastering Your Mean Girl is the no BS guide to becoming wildly wealthy, fabulously healthy and bursting with love. It’s an upbeat, inspiring book that’s part memoir, part roadmap, and completely infused with love. You’ll have to get a copy to find out more 😉