Have you ever wondered what the difference is between those of us who struggle with our weight and the ‘naturally slim people’…. you know the ones.

All of us have a naturally slim friend and either secretly wondered how they do it or asked them – outright!

So yes, there are those people – the slim ones, and let’s put them in the ‘naturally slim person’ and there is us…those of us who have tried every diet known to man, who constantly think about food and find it easier to cut our arm off rather than leave the last 3 Tim Tams in the packet.

Those of us who start a new diet and fitness regime every New Year and then come March, sometimes even February, we’ve given up and put it in the too hard basket and start wondering (again!) where we went wrong.

What is the difference between us and them – the ‘naturally slim person’ camp?

The fundamental difference lies in our mindset and how we think vs theirs and how they think.

The luxury they – the slim ones – have over us is that their mindset is programmed differently. The way they think and the actions they take are different to ours.

There is no need to panic and think that all is lost and you can never be slim, fit and healthy. The beauty is that you are free to change your mindset.

The problem and the solution lies with the different ingrained associations that we have towards food, eating and exercise, what we believe and how we deal with our emotions.

Let’s take a look at some of theses associations….

  • You may think of a salad and a plate of vegetables as boring diet food and associate them with dieting and restricting yourself.

– naturally slim person love them (usually!) and associates them with healthy and vitality.

  • You may find exercise a chore and associate exercise with pain and failure,

– a naturally slim person really enjoys moving their body, finds it fun and loves how it makes them feel.

  • You may love sweets, chocolate and cheesecake and chips (should I go on?) and associate them with being a treat or reward and something you deserve…

– a naturally slim person rewards themselves in different ways and wouldn’t even consider food.

These mental associations are unconscious and have generally been learnt and ingrained over long periods of time. And the thing is, there will be a lot of these associations that you are not even aware of.

This unfortunately means that no matter how much you try to drop the weight by dieting and forced exercise, these underlying associations will always be there to sabotage you.

So what does this mean for you – the person who wants to be just like your naturally slim friend?

Your brain encodes all of these associations in different ways. When you learn to think differently you behave differently.

If you think like a naturally slim person, wont you behave like a naturally slim person?

If you start to think and behave like a naturally slim person, wont you become a naturally slim person?

Here are three positive changes you can make today…

  1. Do not obsess over food and how much you weigh or what you look like in the mirror.

If you weigh yourself daily – stop! You can read more here on how it messes with your head.

  1. Learn to trust your body, learn to listen to what it has to say to you.  

By eating mindfully you remove all of the negative head talk that goes on. You eat when you’re hungry and stop when you’re satisfied. Discover how here.

  1. Do not diet, they don’t work!

When you start a diet your headspace automatically goes into a place of restriction and deprivation, you’re already starting with your negative foot first. I have written many a blog post and newsletter about this. Accept that you no longer diet and start to eat mindfully instead.

Your head and your waistline just may thank you for it and you too can have the luxury of being naturally slim!



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