I am going to let you in on a little known secret to harnessing your ultimate power….and it’s sure to surprise you…
Your ultimate power is hidden within kindness.
Here’s something else that may surprise you….it’s hidden within kindness towards ‘yourself’.
Because you cannot be truly and authentically kind to another unless you are first kind to yourself.
This concept may seem to oppose the very concept of power… yet I have proven this theory to be true time and time again over the past 20 years as a personal trainer teaching literally hundreds of clients exactly why and how this is so.
I am going to share two decades of experience with you and teach you exactly why introspective kindness is the secret ingredient to power and how to access it.
I want you to deeply harness this process, so I am going to break this concept down into 2 simple steps for you to implement into your life immediately.
In this edition, you are going to discover how to be kind to yourself in less than 60 seconds a day…but first, you need to understand why this simple act is so ‘powerful’…
Humans have a ‘fight-or-flight’ mode of operating (the Sympathetic nervous system) that was a very important part of our collective survival throughout the hundreds of thousands of years of our development as a species.
Our brains have been tuned to recognise threats that could harm us, or those we love.
Twenty-first Century life often puts us in the ‘fight-or-flight’ mode of operating most of our waking day, even though in essence we do not need to defend ourselves nor run away from danger.
Unfortunately this mode, which was very necessary when threatened by a predator, is triggered very often by much less pressing concerns.
The problem lies in our often hyper response to the demands placed on us, both consciously and what also bombards our subconscious. Why does this happen? Overload.
So you still want to continue your uber busy full-on life and not break down. The key is to be efficient, minimal output for a maximal result.
To begin this process you need to stimulate the Vagus nerve – one of the 12 cranial nerves responsible for unconscious functions such as keeping the heart pumping and controlling digestion. Stimulating the Vagus nerve activates the parasympathetic part of your central nervous system, meaning you will feel more relaxed and calm.
Here’s how to do it:
- Take a very slow and deep breath through your nose – a very slow and deep breath,
- Visualise the air flowing to the bottom of your lungs and filling from the bottom up like water being poured into a glass,
- Now hold that breath for a count of four – feel your ribs in your mid back gently expand,
- Slowly breathe out.
- Repeat this once more.
You have just completed a very simple act that has achieved something quite remarkable.
Now you have ‘breathing’ mastered…it’s time for step 2.
This is where moving with grace and composure comes in.
By moving with grace and composure when you are exercising, it will the permeate how you not only move out in the real world but how you handle what the world throws at you.
Rather than approaching harsh challenges like a boxer taking on an opponent, to instead be the strong and graceful ballroom dancer taking on a feisty new partner.
So here’s how to do it.
Follow these simple but very powerful principles when you are performing resistance training exercises:
- Begin your training session with the two breaths as described above.
- At any time you feel like you are becoming distracted do these again. It will take your attention out of your head (overthinking) and drop you into your body.
- Move very, very slowly. The same speed you would see a person performing Tai Chi moves.
- Close your eyes (when you feel safe to do so)
- Breathe in and out your nose as much as possible
- Keep your face completely still. Avoid any facial movement at all. Make no noise, especially no grunting.
- Invite your whole body to participate in each movement, invite every cell to assist in your movement. For example if you are doing an upper body exercise invite all the cells of your legs to help.
The overriding image to create is to ‘move as you would envisage a dancer doing the movement.’
By performing an exercise like this you will be moving deliberately, no longer on automatic.
In doing so you will be able to be aware of imbalanced and dominant patterns of movement and change these without force.
You will ultimately then begin to access strength you didn’t know you had because instead of using momentum to move your limbs eg when doing resistance training you will be using your muscles more.
Also your nervous system will still.
After a weights session you will feel energised and alive, not depleted. And when you want to move fast you will do so with more power as you will have become more efficient.
Very important note: be conscious to keep your upper trapezius muscles soft. This is the big group of muscle fibres that run from your shoulder to your neck. I call them the ‘bodyguard’ muscles.
They perform two main functions:
- Shrug up (to protect the neck from attack)
- Turn the head side to side (Looking out for danger)
For so many people the upper trapezius are in a state of hyper vigilance. This is exacerbated by poor posture ie rounded shoulders and head too far forward. The weight of the head creates further strain on these muscles